Things are finally stabilizing again! We love being back on the ranch and Brett and I came up with a new chore division that is making my life a lot easier.
At the beginning of our mold avoidance journey Brett was doing all of the cooking and laundry. When I started getting my strength back I was so excited to finally be able to help that I wanted to do everything! I wanted to give him a total break so that he could just focus on making a living for us.
It worked for a little while but it’s been starting to wear at me lately. Brett often has to step in when I’m feeling exhausted or overwhelmed. Even when I have the energy to do it all, I have no time left over for anything else. Even things that are really important to me like spiritual growth and relationships.
So we decided that it was best to revise the division of labor a little bit to create a little more space in my life. Brett is taking an online business course right now so he can easily do the laundry while he listens to the lessons. He’s also faster at it than I am. So for every one hour he gives of his time, it frees up two hours of mine.
The new plan is that he’ll be doing the laundry on Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. Then I’ll be doing it on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday so he has more time on those days to focus on creating content for his students. I’ll still be cleaning the van and doing all the cooking since he’s doing all the breadwinning right now. Then on Sunday we’ll do the chores together so that we can both have more time to rest.
So far, it’s going really well! Obviously, it’s good for me because I have more time to pray, write, and hopefully start reconnecting with friends. But it’s also good for Brett that I’m less stressed. He’s not having to step in at randomly inconvenient times because I’m having an emotional breakdown. So, we’re both happy!
Today, I used the extra time to pray, go on a walk with Ramona and take a 30 minute nap. I really needed that time to think and rest. It was so wonderful to have space to just be for a little while without worrying that I would fall behind on the daily tasks.
Thank you so much Brett! Three cheers for all the servant-hearted husbands out there! The world needs more of you! 🙂
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